Hello guys, a recent event that happened on Feb 28, sparked me to write about this in regards to autism and in a point my father really needs to be intervened.
Last Sunday, when I asked to see if he was using the Dyson vacuum, Hua, my father started flipping out, becoming emotionally aggressive and getting into a temper-tantrum just because I didn't clean the dyson vaccum. I was trying to tell him a simple solution but decided to be argumentative and combative and told me that I need to move out of the house. Unfortunately with an autistic adult in the home, affecting other people's life (especially mines and my mothers) we cannot leave him alone since he is not able to control himself. He tried to walk away from that certain problem by saying "LEAVE ME ALONE!" However, we didn't solve the problem, I tried to solve the problem with him eventually touching and assaulting me, in which is had to stop him from getting more violent which I failed to stop the last time in which he strangled me and I had to scratch his face (this was the reason why I got arrested and currently getting help from two counselors during the diversion program, although I did in self defense)
The whole family is fed up dealing with my father's aggression which is the primary reason why my planning on my future has been held up several times (including a situation he tried to blame it on me, when I was trying to help him). Overtime, Hua has been getting extremely upset over small things such as when I was taking a walk outside twice (once in March 2020 and again in May 2020), as well as adapting to changes during the first wave of Coronavirus. WE as a family, has always put up with his extremely aggressive behaviors, but still cared about him because he is considered part of the family (although there has been instance he has wandered off, or is not interested in being part of the family)
Additonally, when he doesn't get what he wants (ex. good grades, desperately real job) he would throw a tantrum and I would treat him as a normal person, getting into arguments with him (along with my mother and my sister on occassions)
Following the incident, I tried figuring out how I can save my father's life before he continues on a downward spiral to where he is unable to recover from a depressive episode. I have been trying my best to getting help for him, but the problem is he think he is normal, when in reality he is not. I also posted an emotional video in regards to the incident but I was very difficult to express what happened since I was upset over the incident and totally didn't remember what happened during the day.
Luckily for myself, I have been taking audio recordings and videoclips to documents some of my father's aggressive behaviors. We as a family, have been having behavioral problems but we all changed overtime. Myself, for example, I constantly got in trouble in elementary school, got into detention and a suspension in High School (happens to the best of us). However when I was disciplined, we always have to learn from lessons.
My father unfortunately, never wanted to take reasonability for any of the incident that has happened overtime. More importantly, there was a clear evidence that he could be extremely depressed when he said "living alone." This alarmed me to seek for desperate help to stop his spiraling downward episode from getting worse (along with a suicidal death of my friend). I have to call SAMHSA's national hotline to get him intervened and hopefully I will be getting in touch with them soon.
If you or a loved one knows someone close who is having depressive problems, please call the SAMHSA's national hotline to get help right away before it gets worse. The Phone number is 1-800-662-4357.
Also, we must raise awareness for Autism in Adults. As I mentioned before, this is a life-long disease that can affect individuals for their entire life. For my birthday this year, I would love to raise money for Autism Speaks, an autism awareness organization, and lets make the country more aware of autism in adults, even if we think it only exist in kids.
LET'S WEAR BLUE TO SHOW SUPPORT FOR AUTISM THIS APRIL 2 AND LETS WEAR GREEN TO SHOW SUICIDE AWARENESS THIS SEPTEMBER! SHOW SUPPORT FOR YOUR LOVED ONE WHO IS DEPRESSED OR AUTISM AND TELL THEM GOOD THINGS TO SHOW WE ARE THERE FOR THEM!
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